The Common Bond We All Share
Have you ever wondered why so many relationships end in heartache? Even relationships that begin with incredible love, faithful promises and the best of intentions often come to a bitter end. If love is all you need, why does it all go so wrong?
What if I told you, there is a single core issue responsible for almost every break up and break down, and, not just in our romantic relationships, but in all our relationships?
From my many years of experience in coaching and student of all human behavior there is one theme that runs through all humans hearts. Everyone feels unworthy of love and belonging, a state that started in early childhood. People carry shame and intimacy is unconsciously repelled in fear and protecting oneself from perceived threats.
Most of all human beings are silently suffering from the invisible wound of unworthiness. When we were born we were born of the essence of the universal truth and love. We were born perfect, innocent, whole and complete. But because a series of events occurred we forgot our true natures, that we are one with an unlimited source of unconditional love.
Most people believe that they are worthy of love if they meet certain conditions stipulated by others to be acceptable, loved, cherished, and valued. As a result, everyone looks externally for the answers, left feeling lost and alone. All relationships become unsustainable and all happiness out of reach. Let's face it, having a lack of love and connection is what got us here. So the solution is, love without conditions.
We have found that receiving this kind of love from others will help us see our own true nature again. The inability to feel worthy of love is detrimental to all of our relationships. Living to our potential, being creative, on task, centered, balanced and feeling peaceful depends on how a person sees his or her world and internal worthiness.
We have found that unconditional love from others is that grease that gets the wheel turning again back over to our happiness. To see the love of others reflected in their eyes back to us shows us who we are internally and eternally. Knowing that there are many sources of love for everyone, why does the world still not have what they need?
How can you know how to recognize what you are looking for when you had never seen it your whole life? And therein lies the problem. With the help of our community and many others around the world we are educating people on a very foundational level what that looks like. What does love and belonging look like?
Most people spend their entire lives trying to prove that they are worthy of love, never considering that that quest for worthiness is impossible to fulfill. Nor are they ever understanding that it is an impossible quest that covertly sabotages virtually every loving relationship.
Although we are usually unaware of this primary emotional need, there is a part of us who is constantly scratching for the fulfillment of this need and consequently altering our behavior in hopes of getting it met.
If you truly want to know how to make these changes, join us!
Sharon Winningham, ULLC
Dear Sharon.......Very dear, Sharon.
It's 6:30 in the morning on New Year's eve and I have just been reflecting on what my life looked like a year ago and what it has become. The difference is truly amazing.
Last year at this time, I had been living in the guest room for a month, and my wife and I were 3 weeks into coaching with you in one last attempt to save a 30 year marriage that had been ending, painfully, for the last 6 years.
Over the next 12 months, I moved out of the house, released the marriage and learned to love myself and others in a way that I had never imagined possible.
My wife and I have agreed to end our marriage next month, are now living 2,500 miles apart and love each other more than we have in decades.
I am in a loving relationships with myself and a wonderful woman that would never have been possible without the tools that I have acquired through the loving support of this community. It's been messy, but so worth it.
I know myself better than I ever have, and look forward to a progressively richer, fuller life in the years to come. What a wonderful place to be as I approach 70!
Thank you isn't sufficient to express the level of gratitude that I feel, but THANK YOU to you and the Loving Community.
With immense love......John Mortola December 31, 2016